Attend to your marriage

I heard an amazing analogy about marriage a couple years ago.  I was at a local church for their mom’s group and the speaker referred to marriage like a garden.A marriage takes time and effort to cultivate like a garden. If you don’t actively attend to it, then the weeds will take over.  Weeds are a NORMAL part of every yard so expect them!  And when they pop up, deal with them!

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Sometimes dandelions grow in our husband’s row and sometimes they are in our own. Be careful that when they are in your husband’s row, that you don’t tear him apart and bring up a million old issues as you deal with the current day problem. This is dangerous and destructive like a weed whacker out of control.

Weeds often discourage people.  Sometimes it’s easier to just let things go. Problems, like weeds become too much to manage and they choke out the beauty that once existed.  Weeding and problem solving involve a lot of effort and can be overwhelming. Knowing where to start can be so discouraging.  Some people choose to ignore the issues and just grow complacent, living side by side in their marriage.  But weeds don’t magically disappear; you must put in the effort to clean them out of your garden. Otherwise your marriage is doomed for disaster like an abandoned garden that was once rich in color and fragrance.

Marriages, like gardens are worth the investment.  As someone who has been married for almost 16 years, I can say that figuring stuff out isn’t always easy.  Read encouraging blogs and good books to help guide your way.  Choose to live your best life, and make your marriage better!  Tend to yours today!

If you don’t know where to start, here are some great book recommendations
Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
No More Headaches by Juli Slattery
His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr.
The Four Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Happy weeding,


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Canadian by birth, living in the USA by choice... I am a wife, full-time homemaker and mom of three. I enjoy bible studies, cardmaking, reading, photography, simple recipes, music, and organizing. I may not always get my dishes done, cards mailed out on time or use my camera in manual mode but I try - hence it being my endeavor! You will find a little bit of all that interests me on my APE blog {hey - I like gorillas!}:

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